The Logical Argument Against Comparing Your Life To Others

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Human beings compare different elements and situations to make inferences that guide their decisions. It is a natural behaviour to make comparisons. That is how we are able to analyze situations and learn from experience.

There are wide arrays of things that can be compared but not everything is worth comparing. The apostle Paul wrote this important piece in his first letter to the Corinthians, chapter 10, verse 23:

“We are allowed to do anything,” so they say. That is true, but not everything is good. “We are allowed to do anything” — but not everything is helpful.

One thing that I have learned in this school of life, which is not helpful, is comparing our lives to others. To understand why this practice is not helpful, we need to understand the meaning of the word “compare”.

According to Google, compare is a verb that means to “estimate, measure, or note the similarity or dissimilarity between.” Thus, comparison ultimately arrives at noting the similarity or dissimilarity between whatever is being compared.

So if you compare your life to other people’s lives, you will notice similarities and dissimilarities which will trigger your mind to start worrying. Once you start worrying, you set up your life for discontentment.

Eventually, discontentment creates negative energy within you, where you are never satisfied with what you get. This is a situation I never will wish for anyone. As I have previously written about, gratitude is a must, as one cannot progress in the journey of life if they do not appreciate the present.

Have you ever wondered why the present is called present? Because it is actually a present. A gift, to behold. So whatever your present situation is, it is worth more than being dead.

Life is a present.

It was for this same reason that our Lord and Master Jesus Christ was quoted in Matthew 6:34 saying:

So do not worry about tomorrow; it will have enough worries of its own. There is no need to add to the troubles each day brings.

So far, I have lived two decades and a half on this earth, and one thing I know is that life is like a rollercoaster. A rollercoaster ride is a fun activity where people sit in carriages that move on rail tracks with tight turns and steep slopes.

A rollercoaster.

Like a rollercoaster, this life is never a smooth journey. It is full of bumpy roads, tight turns, lows, highs, and even crashes. Like a ship sailing on the wild seas, you have to learn how to keep your ship stabilized. A smooth sea never made a great sailor.

Understand and internalize this mentality and you will save yourself a lot of pain. With life being a rollercoaster ride, one time you may be up, another time you may be down. So it is illogical and counterproductive to compare your lows to another person’s highs, or your highs to their lows.

Armed with this knowledge, we can infer that the key to long term happiness is self-denial. When you deny yourself, you do not let success get into your head, and you take failures calmly as part of your development process.

Eventually, you will become a stabilized ship, unbothered by the myriad of waves hitting the stern. You will become like the wise man who built his house on the rock, the storms will come, but you will remain forever grounded.

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Thank you for reading, and have a blessed day.